There are many different types of communication.
Some are digital such as the internet, i-phones, blackberries etc. Others are analog….

But I,m not discussing those here so if that’s what you’re looking for then this post isn’t for you.

The two types of communication I will be writing about are the sort that humans like you have used since before we came down out of the trees.

NOW

You’re probably thinking, auditory… you know the spoken stuff that we hear and answer back to.

Nope

Well then it must be body language. Matching and mirroring.

Wrong again

Well that only leaves kinaesthetic. Communication by touch and feel.

It isn’t any one of these ways of communicating . It is all of them.

SO what is my point here ?

There are only two types of communication. There is communication that doesn’t work and there is communication that gets you the results you really want.
Lots of folks get hung up on language patterns, listening skills, volume, correct enunciation of their words, body language etc etc etc.

All of the above are important and so is working out the results that you want from your communication skills before you start to talk. Or write. Or to perform.

Knowing your outcomes is a vital  part of being a good communicator. And being able to assess how effective you have been is equally important.
The thing is that often you can get so hung up on being right that you forget the actual result you wanted in the first place. This is a sure recipe for divorce, disease and downright misery.

Often when you are taught to use assertive communication you are taught to WIN. And at what cost. This is the big flaw in the argument for assertive communication.

You MUST win.

At what cost though ? You may lose the respect and trust of people who will be your allies in the future. You may create fear about dealing with you, just in case you chew their ear off.
You may create enemies who will do you down at the first opportunity because you really upset them and maybe didn’t listen fully to their side of the story.

Communication is a two way street and unless you listen you may miss pertinent points that woud have eliminated the conflict anyway. You also miss out on the input that you get from
 another persons perspective and who’s to say that your viewpoint is 100 % right 100 % of the time ?

I say all of this not to make you feel bad or guilty because you want THAT result.

I say this because there is a more powerful way . An easier way where you win and they win too.
You both get what you want and there is no angst or anger.
Two people or more working together towards a common end. Each with half the work load and twice the brain power. Twice the muscle power.

This was the conversation we had before we came down from the trees.

” Cover my back. Keep your eyes open and yell out if you see anything coming. I’m going down to check out that strange fruit down there “

Think about this and maybe you can work out how you can get over your differences and work with others.

In reality there are many types of communication. HOWEVER there is only one that works 

Job Communication

For every person who is employed in any kind of business establishment, communication is very important. Often times, assertive communication must be practiced to provide a disciplined atmosphere. But every day in the workplace, various kinds of communication happen, and it is very important to know what the most effective forms of job communication are.

Job communication takes place in different forms. There is a communication between a superior and an employee, or vice versa. There is job communication between departments within the same establishment. There also exists communication between separate business entities.

Along with the directions of different types of job communication, there are those which could also be classified according to tone such as friendly, command, reprimand, or warning. Job communication is so vast in form and structure that it is very important to understand these forms.

Persons with superb job communication skills make valuable employees as they become skilled at working with others, befitting the company, and contributing to the objectives of the company. Improving job communication is simple, and with a little bit of practice, one would be able to develop his verbal and non-verbal communication skills necessary for workplace success.

All types of communication in a work area are essential, be it verbal or nonverbal. Job communication skills also involve….

written communication.

Instructions, peer communication, questions, and answers are often given through verbal job communication. Letters, memos, and other documents within the work area intended to convey a message are also considered as written job communication.

Nonverbal job communication

on the other hand involves gestures, facial expression, actuations, and signals. This type of communication often happens in informal work settings wherein there is no need for formal use of words to relay a message.

In a work area nonverbal job communication also includes eye contact, body language, facial expressions, and posture. At work, people often practice nonverbal job communication more than verbal job communication. Especially considering that you can’t always talk in the workplace. But every movement conveys a message.

Effective job communication in the workplace could be achieved in several ways. In the workplace, make others feel the sincerity in what you say. Good job communication does not require you to open your mouth all the time, rather opening one’s mouth when it is needed. This should only happen when you know the topic being discussed.

Job communication also requires a clear delivery of message as well as knowing when to speak and when to listen. Sharing worthwhile information to others in the work area also provides a good way to establish rapport with co-workers. A good job communication means a direct and definite goal to convey to another.

In making sure that good job communication is maintained throughout the office, one must always think before speaking. The words you speak will build harmonious relationships with others, and will gain their trust. This way you will improve or help the company. Thus, good job communication skills are essential for anyone who is in a work setting.